People often ask me why i choose to Mentor?  there is no other answer than i know the true pain of growing up hurting. I have spent many years carrying the weight of other's mistakes, the pain of their wrong decisions where i wasn't put first. But with guidance I found my way, many sadly don't the question of why me?  is to much to bear. But the answer is simple 'It wasn't you' it was them you were just a child, an innocent child. I believe through mentoring i can share my life story, my struggles and my dreams of being something more and to show them it can be done. Along the way I found myself in numerous abusive relationships when i was very vulnerable, the last time in 2014 when my perpetrator received a very lengthy prison sentence. Although it wasn't the first sentence, it was to be the last and the last assault i ever endured. I want young people to have a safe space, I want them to know they do not have to endure what I did I was a Mum of 2 when i started a new life.
Therapy helped, a great therapist helped me to learn a lot about myself and my journey....I was born to do this!
Through my successful Mentoring, I am able to engage with young and sometimes challenging people. The truth is they've never left me when the Mentoring has ended  because i don't give up on them. I plant seeds (thoughts that grow although actual plants have also worked during my sessions!) I am also able to offer the safe space they may be missing, what better way to use my painful childhood and by turning something so negative into something so positive?. All the Young people I have had the pleasure of mentoring and watching grow have left many happy memories in my heart, they all also let me in which I am so grateful for.
My life has had a very happy ending 3 beautiful children, a loving partner and a Nan who continued to adored me throughout my life.Also a Godmother who was my Angel - Rest in peace Nic, I did it!

If you would like to get in touch to discuss mentoring please email me on admin@domesticabusesurvivors.co.uk and i will be happy to send you a referral form